Top 5 Relationship Problems
In my private practice I have noticed five main problems when it comes to couples and their relationships. I categorize these problems as the 5 C’s to include: Communication, Commitment, Cheaters, Caring, and Crazy.
Most of the time in the relationship I hear a concerned partner say “they” do not communicate enough and I can understand how that can happen. One of the challenges with 21st-century relationships in my estimation is texting and electronic devices. Technology is great for making life easier, but bad for people who depend on it to express themselves.
Think about it, texting is designed to be short and to the point. Unfortunately, this is also how communication takes place within the relationship. I believe this is why some couples have problems expressing themselves to each other. Technology has simplified life, but it can complicate communication.
Another problem couples struggle with commitment. In my opinion, this is the single biggest problem among couples. Some would say lack of love is the biggest problem, but couples often divorce and will admit they love each other. A commitment means staying when you don’t feel like it, attending counseling when you don’t want to, and being faithful even when faced with temptation.
Being committed means putting up with your partner’s weaknesses, because you understand that you have your own. There are many other factors to name in this area, but commitment is the key to keeping it together.
There are three ways I have seen couples cheat on each other. The first method is what I call electronic cheating. Electronic cheating is the person that has profiles on dating sites i.e. Plenty of Fish, Match, and Tinder. The intent is to attract the attention of someone else while keeping their main partner.
The second method is emotional affairs. An emotional affair is a ‘mental connection’ with someone whom you share intimacy with through texting or verbalization. Emotional affairs usually arouse sexual thoughts and feelings with talks of how unsatisfied or disenchanted a person is in their current relationship.
Finally, there is the all out sexual affair. The sexual affair can occur for various reasons and also involve multiple partners. Sexual affairs are not necessarily due lack of satisfaction with the partner. It could also be due to just desiring a new experience or even revenge.
I have also seen couples that just do not care anymore about the relationship. You can call it falling out of love, disinterest, or just boredom. Whatever the case may be this is never a good sign. This normally happens with couples who have been together at least 10 years or more. But it could happen at any time frame in the relationship. However, here some methods to show your partner that you care.
When I speak of crazy I am not referring to mental illness; although dating someone with a mental illness can be a challenge as well. I am really speaking of abuse. You were not meant to be an emotional or physical punching bag. If you suspect that you are in an abusive relationship here are some resources and information.
These are just five areas, but there are many more. If you would to schedule a session please feel free to reach out to me. Remember, I provide online counseling as well. Take care and I look forward to hearing from you soon.