Unless you are a masochist or someone who derives pleasure from physical pain you never intended for your relationship to get physical. But it did. It started with yelling at each other. They put their hands in your face. You knocked their hands down. You push each other, more yelling occurs and then…bam. You are […]

I am always asked a question from the spouses, girlfriends, or loved ones of black men who need therapy, “How do I get him to therapy when I know he needs it but he really does not want to go.” This can seem like a daunting task, but it is also heartbreaking. You see a […]

I attended a small college in the Northern Florida and during my junior year I was interested in trying out for the basketball team. The first time I scrimmaged with the team I was horrible. This was due to the fact that I was anxious and there were mental barriers I was trying to work […]

Sexual Trauma and Athletes On the surface he was an athlete in his prime. A collegiate football player. Tall, muscular build, good looks, with a gregarious personality. However, he was hiding a secret. During our session he revealed that as a little boy, he was molested by a teenage male in his neighborhood. No tears […]

Mad Skills and Mental Illness Whenever you think of athletes there are many superlatives that come to mind, “strong,” “fierce,” “powerful,” “agile,” “amazing,” and many others just to name a few. On the contrary few would use words such as, “depression,” “anxiety,” “addiction,” “self-injurious,” “mood disorder,” or “bipolar,” and to describe athletes. Yet, in some […]

I can remember when I did a brief mental health screening on a woman I will call Jane Doe. Everything appeared to be going well, but about half-way through the evaluation Jane started sweating, her hands began to shake, and her body language and posture changed. I probed and paused and then a tear fell […]

A lot of people talk about coping with low self-esteem, but less is said about self-esteem that comes and goes. The truth is, when it comes to self-esteem, most people fit in the middle of the spectrum, feeling fairly self-confident one minute and then anxious the next. If you can identify with swings in your […]

When infidelity occurs in a relationship, it can be very devastating for the parties involved. Infidelity involves breaking a promise to be completely faithful to your partner, and when it happens, it erases the trust that existed in the relationship. Dealing with infidelity can be pretty challenging and it raises tough questions. Should you stay? […]